Is a man over 50 not married no kids a red flag?
Last Updated: 26.06.2025 00:58
See, red flag is a matter of perspective. Don’t make her perspective yours. Be your own man. And vice versa if you’re a woman. Care more about what your dog thinks about you than her if she identifies you by flag color. Your dog sees you for who you actually are. The good woman will too.
The value of a woman (or man, if you’re a woman) used to be higher for me. But as my intelligence increased and my sexual drive decreased, things changed. As soon as you take sex out of the equation, you begin to evaluate women (or men, if you’re a woman) on other criteria such as IQ, emotional balance, insight, etc. I had lunch with such a female this week. We’re friends. Sex? No way. Not in a million years. When I date younger women I’m lucky if I can get them to delay sex until the third date. The world is crazy. Sex now, drama later. She might even blame you for having sex with her if things go badly after. Who needs that? Not to mention how selfish it is using another for sex. It’s why I hardly date. Unethical. Feels cheap.
Be who you are. We only get one life. Don’t be who the world thinks you should be. Be you. As Helen Keller said, “Life is either a bold adventure, or nothing.” Dare to live an authentic life.
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Be free of all that judgement. Live life on YOUR terms. Have the courage to proclaim yourself WEIRD if that’s what society wants to label you as. “Men like that are red flags.” We are, indeed. Listen, I’ve had women who are divorced, two kids (in trouble, on drugs) date me, in total drama with her ex, in debt, stressed to the max ask me . . . . “So why aren’t you married?” Gee, I wonder. Intelligence is a rarity, perspective and awareness are scarce.
Wear the flag. And when you’re asked about it, tell them it’s deep and dark RED.
Being a red flag in this world is a blessing. I’m worth almost a million dollars house paid off and can get a date anytime I like if I even wanted one, which is rare (I no longer buy lunches though, 1/2 or nothing). All this for being a red flag. And if she says, “I won’t date you long term, you’re a red flag,” I say, “We’re going to get along GREAT.” See, being a red flag has its perks, it saves you from messy break-ups. The right girl will love that you’re a red flag. She’s one in a million, the one who sees through the societal BS and sees what is actually there, inside. She won’t try to make you “relationship material.” If she comes along, lunch is on me. Good women have come along before, I bought them lunch and much more, but not enough to change my flag color. Major commitment problems. Oh yes! Red flag! Truly messed up. I’m a real problem. Living with someone is an entirely different deal. I like the temp at 60, she likes it at 80. It’s not going to work. I love my dog to death, she doesn’t like dogs on the bed. It’s really (really) not going to work.
Let go of life. Enjoy it. Live it for the first time. Live YOUR path, nobody else’s. Flags or no flags. Be authentic, genuine, don’t try to “fit in” to society. Look around you, plenty of men cheating or in families feeling trapped or women putting up with cheating husbands. But no red flags. Most men evaluate their worth relative to what some arbitrary woman thinks of them, and vice versa for women. Don’t be one of them. You’re not a bison. You’re a person. Stake your claim to your authenticity. Be who you are. Screw the world.
Don’t change your colors for anyone.
Help the dogs at the shelter. Adopt. Help the kids at your job (if you’re a teacher). Contribute to society, whatever you want. If I had a million dollars I’d rescue dogs daily. I love animals. Deer outside my window now, total peace.
You’re a real problem.
Red flag for marriage? Let’s hope so, that’s what you want to send out. Red flag for family? Yes! Bonus! Count me in, I’m a REAL problem! I’m exactly what you DON’T want for that kind of thing. Other men like that stuff. Not me.
But she has a vagina? Ah, gotcha!
Good luck.
One word of warning, dating women gets old by the time you’re 50 if you’ve done it all your life. It sounds great going from one woman to another, but it gets old. Sex becomes a bit boring. So, by 50, if you live your life right, you won’t even care what others think of you anyway. Red flag? Blue flag? Purple flag? Who gives a fuck, so long as you’re happy. And if you’ve dated all your life, by 50 you’ll probably find most women damn “less interesting” and won’t even want to date them. You’ll enjoy your own time much more and work on your own things instead of trying to impress someone else. By 50, you’ll realize that most women (and men) are way, way overrated.
[Everything in this post applies to women as well if you’re a red flag woman, don’t care what men have to say about you]
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Break free.
I work on projects I want. I deny consulting projects that pay well because I think they’re weak. I can’t be bought. I can’t be controlled. At work I can quit anytime and make it on my own since I have enough retirement already to last me for years. All for being a red flag.
Red flag to whom? A single man 50s probably does not want to get married. If you’re attractive looking and enjoy sex, there will be PLENTY of 40s and 50s women who will LOVE short-term sexual relationships. Lots of these women are divorced and need validation. A single 50-year old man with his stuff together is a great weekend treat.
Please.
Be a warrior.