Is a man over 50 not married no kids a red flag?

The value of a woman (or man, if you’re a woman) used to be higher for me. But as my intelligence increased and my sexual drive decreased, things changed. As soon as you take sex out of the equation, you begin to evaluate women (or men, if you’re a woman) on other criteria such as IQ, emotional balance, insight, etc. I had lunch with such a female this week. We’re friends. Sex? No way. Not in a million years. When I date younger women I’m lucky if I can get them to delay sex until the third date. The world is crazy. Sex now, drama later. She might even blame you for having sex with her if things go badly after. Who needs that? Not to mention how selfish it is using another for sex. It’s why I hardly date. Unethical. Feels cheap.

But she has a vagina? Ah, gotcha!

Don’t change your colors for anyone.

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You’re a real problem.

Let go of life. Enjoy it. Live it for the first time. Live YOUR path, nobody else’s. Flags or no flags. Be authentic, genuine, don’t try to “fit in” to society. Look around you, plenty of men cheating or in families feeling trapped or women putting up with cheating husbands. But no red flags. Most men evaluate their worth relative to what some arbitrary woman thinks of them, and vice versa for women. Don’t be one of them. You’re not a bison. You’re a person. Stake your claim to your authenticity. Be who you are. Screw the world.

Red flag for marriage? Let’s hope so, that’s what you want to send out. Red flag for family? Yes! Bonus! Count me in, I’m a REAL problem! I’m exactly what you DON’T want for that kind of thing. Other men like that stuff. Not me.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

Wear the flag. And when you’re asked about it, tell them it’s deep and dark RED.

Break free.

Be free of all that judgement. Live life on YOUR terms. Have the courage to proclaim yourself WEIRD if that’s what society wants to label you as. “Men like that are red flags.” We are, indeed. Listen, I’ve had women who are divorced, two kids (in trouble, on drugs) date me, in total drama with her ex, in debt, stressed to the max ask me . . . . “So why aren’t you married?” Gee, I wonder. Intelligence is a rarity, perspective and awareness are scarce.

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Help the dogs at the shelter. Adopt. Help the kids at your job (if you’re a teacher). Contribute to society, whatever you want. If I had a million dollars I’d rescue dogs daily. I love animals. Deer outside my window now, total peace.

Be who you are. We only get one life. Don’t be who the world thinks you should be. Be you. As Helen Keller said, “Life is either a bold adventure, or nothing.” Dare to live an authentic life.

One word of warning, dating women gets old by the time you’re 50 if you’ve done it all your life. It sounds great going from one woman to another, but it gets old. Sex becomes a bit boring. So, by 50, if you live your life right, you won’t even care what others think of you anyway. Red flag? Blue flag? Purple flag? Who gives a fuck, so long as you’re happy. And if you’ve dated all your life, by 50 you’ll probably find most women damn “less interesting” and won’t even want to date them. You’ll enjoy your own time much more and work on your own things instead of trying to impress someone else. By 50, you’ll realize that most women (and men) are way, way overrated.

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Please.

Good luck.

Be a warrior.

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Red flag to whom? A single man 50s probably does not want to get married. If you’re attractive looking and enjoy sex, there will be PLENTY of 40s and 50s women who will LOVE short-term sexual relationships. Lots of these women are divorced and need validation. A single 50-year old man with his stuff together is a great weekend treat.

See, red flag is a matter of perspective. Don’t make her perspective yours. Be your own man. And vice versa if you’re a woman. Care more about what your dog thinks about you than her if she identifies you by flag color. Your dog sees you for who you actually are. The good woman will too.

I work on projects I want. I deny consulting projects that pay well because I think they’re weak. I can’t be bought. I can’t be controlled. At work I can quit anytime and make it on my own since I have enough retirement already to last me for years. All for being a red flag.

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[Everything in this post applies to women as well if you’re a red flag woman, don’t care what men have to say about you]

Being a red flag in this world is a blessing. I’m worth almost a million dollars house paid off and can get a date anytime I like if I even wanted one, which is rare (I no longer buy lunches though, 1/2 or nothing). All this for being a red flag. And if she says, “I won’t date you long term, you’re a red flag,” I say, “We’re going to get along GREAT.” See, being a red flag has its perks, it saves you from messy break-ups. The right girl will love that you’re a red flag. She’s one in a million, the one who sees through the societal BS and sees what is actually there, inside. She won’t try to make you “relationship material.” If she comes along, lunch is on me. Good women have come along before, I bought them lunch and much more, but not enough to change my flag color. Major commitment problems. Oh yes! Red flag! Truly messed up. I’m a real problem. Living with someone is an entirely different deal. I like the temp at 60, she likes it at 80. It’s not going to work. I love my dog to death, she doesn’t like dogs on the bed. It’s really (really) not going to work.